Some Advice
Ah..advice..who wants advice from me? Some people shun advice like a disease distanting those who dispense it no matter what the intentions are behind it. Some people pretend to take it to be polite only to throw it out the moment the oppurtunity arises. Im not doing it now for anyone's good, I'm being cynical and
having my moment of 'self therapy' by wording my thoughts in the form of advice.
Having said that, here's my 2 cents.
Don't show people your bad side. I once thought showing people your whole self, good and bad was the most sincere thing you could do. The response concludes otherwise. Once people have seen your negative, that's what they'll most probably perceive you as the rest of your waking time. I have some sense of what released prisoners feel now.
Pretend pretend pretend. So many times I see and observe how people truly are, stripes and all. Only to see it all dissappear in a split moment when somebody else is present, quickly shoving their dirt and grime under a rug. Are they two-faced? Who cares,pretenders are the most popular. Reveal what they are, and you only have yourself to suffer for your attempt.
Don't give people the benefit of the doubt. Don't think anything of anybody at all. Thats the simplest. By doing so, you eliminate dissapointment with their shortcomings.
Don't speak too much. Word spreads faster than a wildfire. Much much faster, and with each medium it goes through, the meaning almost always changes. Thats when you not only land in the fire after the frying pan, you land in the burner from which the fire draws is flames.
posted by Kevin @ 12:44 PM
4 Comments:
It's true that you will not be disappointed if you have to expectations of people. But is that the way to live? Never thinking the best of a person, I think that's the saddest. Cos, if you were caught in an awkward or somewhat suspicious situation, you would want the benefit of the doubt yourself.
All of us are hypocrites...simply because we aren't perfect. Not everyone pretends just for the heck of it. People are generally insecure.
I have to come back to the example Jesus set for us. He said that we are to love one another as we love ourselves. For who are we to judge? I dunno lar...I just think that if Jesus doesn't give up on us after we've been so crap to Him, why should we go ahead and give up on others?
oh well...to each, their own..
In reply. I think its easier said than done. Your favorite catch phrase says it all "talk is cheap"
I don't know you well enough to say what you've gone through is significant in comparison to my life experiences.
Thing is, I don't deny being a hypocrite, but then again, I don't try to show only one side of myself....at least, I didnt.
In all honesty min, you are confident you see the big picture, but sometimes, you don't 'see' it. You think you understand people, but not to the extent you think you do. This is so weird..sending you a msg when you're a phone call away.
PS: I continued after the phrase "Don't give people the benefit of the doubt." with "Don't think anything of anybody at all."
Shouldnt take things out of context.
>Some people shun advice like a disease<
It's called pride. We've all got it to some degree. We don't like to be told we're wrong, even though intentions may be good.
>Once people have seen your negative, that's what they'll most probably perceive you as the rest of your waking time.<
That's subjective, don't generalise.
>Pretend pretend pretend. So many times I see and observe how people truly are, stripes and all. Only to see it all dissappear in a split moment when somebody else is present, quickly shoving their dirt and grime under a rug. Are they two-faced? Who cares,pretenders are the most popular. Reveal what they are, and you only have yourself to suffer for your attempt.<
It's a defense machanism. We all want to be loved, it's only human. So naturally one wouldn't be parading their bad side, but rather seek to conceal it so that others are not driven away.
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