"Forgiveness is For Giving", Rosalind Moss

First, who is Rosalind Moss?
Rosalind Moss, who was born a Jew, is a convert from Evangelicalism. Rosalind travels and speaks extensively as a staff apologist for Catholic Answers. She writes from La Mesa, CaliforniaS

So I typed in the key word 'forgiving' in this catholic site...and Im 'quoting' this certain part of the page. Engineering training tells me that if I use these " " quotation marks...Im free of copyright infringement. Huahahahaha.

"Forgiveness is for giving. If you sin against me, in order to forgive you, I need to absorb the hurt, of whatever kind, that has been committed against me, and release you from the guilt of your actions. What does that do? It sets you free. It also sets me free from the constant pain of bitterness, of wanting revenge, of unhappiness that I inflict upon myself because of your sin.
Forgiveness frees all that. It doesn’t get rid of the pain, or the loss, or the devastation I might need to live with, even daily, for the rest of my life. It doesn’t change the fact that my life may have been forever altered—as was Christ’s life altered, forever, by our sins—but it frees me from hate, from helplessness, from bitterness, from despair.

But what do you do with the pain? The scars? Your forever-altered life?

I give them to God, who knows all things and who is able to heal, in his way (the way of our salvation) and in his time, and to work all things together for good. And I—now, as a Catholic—have the inexpressible gift of offering to God and joining with his sacrifice the sufferings that once would have destroyed me.

It’s too hard.

Yes, I know—too hard alone. But possible in Christ. All things are possible with God, are they not?

Yes, but to be willing to forgive those who you would rather see destroyed . . .?

It’s the only road to freedom—your freedom."

I like the way she writes. Simple, yet effective with the self posed questions answered.